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For me, there is nothing more soothing than a cup of herbal tea. Modern life has a way of keeping our nervous systems stuck in “go” mode. Between constant notifications, multitasking, loud environments, processed foods, and high stress levels, it’s no wonder so many people feel wired, buzzy, and unable to settle down.
For sensitive or neurodivergent nervous systems, that baseline rev can be even higher. And it can show up as anxiety, irritability, tension, digestive issues, trouble sleeping, or feeling overstimulated by things others seem to ignore.
One of the gentlest ways to coax the body back toward “rest and settle” mode is through herbs. When used consistently, calming herbs can nourish the nervous system, support better sleep, and help the body regulate stress responses more easily.
Why nervines make a difference
Certain herbs are known as “nervines”…plants that specifically support the nervous system. Unlike pharmaceuticals, nervines tend to work slowly, quietly, and cumulatively. They can be used during the day to stay grounded or before bed to ease the transition into sleep.
There are three general types:
• Relaxing nervines — help calm tension and support sleep
• Tonic nervines — nourish and strengthen the nervous system over time
• Stimulating nervines — gently lift low mood and alertness without anxiety
For a wired nervous system, relaxing and tonic nervines are often the most supportive.
A simple herbal tea blend for calming
This blend is simple, gentle, and tasty. Each herb plays a role:
• Chamomile (relaxing nervine): eases tension, calms anxiety, and supports digestion
• Lemon balm (relaxing + uplifting): reduces nervous stress and mild anxiety
• Oat tops (milky oats) or oat straw (nervine tonic): nourishes a depleted nervous system
If you can’t find oat tops, oat straw works beautifully and is more affordable.
Optional add-ins
If you want to tailor the blend to different needs:
• Lavender: for extra calming and sleep support
• Passionflower: for looping thoughts or mental chatter
• Spearmint: for refreshing flavor without overstimulating
• Tulsi/Holy basil: for stress resilience and mood balance
Start with small amounts so the chamomile and lemon balm aren’t overwhelmed.
Pairing the tea with a calming ritual
Herbal tea works best when paired with nervous system-friendly habits. Try:
• Lowering the lights or using warm lighting
• Listening to soft, slow music or nature sounds
• Avoiding screens during tea time
• Sitting somewhere cozy instead of drinking on the go
• Breathing slowly while sipping
Even five minutes of intentional calm can shift the whole nervous system.
A quick note about herbal safety
Herbs are generally gentle, but they’re not one-size-fits-all. Avoid lemon balm if you have thyroid disorders unless cleared by a practitioner. Pregnant or nursing individuals should check before using herbs. If you’re on medication, talk with a qualified provider about interactions.
Bringing it all together
Calming the nervous system doesn’t always require big lifestyle overhauls. Small, nourishing practices, like a warm cup of chamomile, lemon balm, and oats, can support your body in slowing down, regulating stress, and feeling safe again.
Consistency matters more than perfection. A cup in the morning as the world wakes up, or at night as you wind down, can slowly teach your nervous system that rest is possible.
Calming Tea Blend
Ingredients
- 1 tsp dried chamomile flowers
- 1 tsp dried lemon balm
- 1 tsp dried milky oats or oat straw
Instructions
- Add the herbs to a tea strainer, tea bag, or mason jar.
- Pour 8–10 ounces of hot (not boiling) water over the herbs.
- Cover and steep for 10–15 minutes. Covering helps keep the volatile calming oils from escaping.
- Strain, sip, and let your body slow down.
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