Energy sensitivity Relationships

Sharing Space With a Partner When You’re Energy Sensitive

May 27, 2019
Sharing Space With A Partner When You're Energy Sensitive- picture of a couple in bed

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Sharing space in your home with one or more people can have challenging moments for anyone. But having a roommate, partner, children, or spouse under the same roof can put an even greater strain on someone who is energy sensitive. When you don’t understand your energy sensitivity and your specific energetic needs it is easy to become energy depleted quickly. But you can avoid that easily. And you can learn how to manage to live with a partner or spouse in a much healthier way.

As someone who is energy sensitive, you absorb the energy of others around you, all the time. And sharing space with another person subjects you to additional energy on a regular basis. But what can you do to manage that additional energy so that you don’t wind up depleted and on the road to chronic illness?

Be open and honest with communication when sharing space

Talk to your partner or roommate about your energy sensitivity and how that changes your needs. Many people really don’t understand what energy sensitives experience daily. Empaths and highly sensitive people make up 15-20% of the population. So there are a whole lot of people who may struggle to understand what it is like living as a sensitive. Communication is crucial! Those who are not energy sensitive don’t experience life in the same way you do. So they will not intuitively understand it when you need extended alone time to replenish your own energy. They may take it personally, which can challenge your relationship. It’s important to sit down and discuss your energy sensitivity with those living in the same home to help them understand how you are different and what you need in terms of alone time.

Too often empaths do not speak up for their own needs. Because you feel the emotions of others strongly, it is easy to give in to what others want and need because you feel uncomfortable when they aren’t feeling good. But putting your own needs last is a recipe for disaster! When your needs for space and quiet time aren’t being met, you will get overwhelmed and burn out quickly! Ultimately this can manifest in your body as physical and mental symptoms and chronic illness.

Clear the clutter

A cluttered home can be a big drain on your energy. When you have a lot of stuff hanging around the house, it stops the flow of energy and that lack of energy flow carries over to you as well. All of that “stuff” can deplete you quickly! Keeping things put away and organized can help! It can also help to purge your belongings regularly to sort through the things you regularly use and the things that can be donated or given away. This one thing alone can significantly improve energy levels!

Negotiate sleep space needs

If you are married or are in a partnership, this one is important. Many empaths struggle with significant energy loss while in bed with their spouse or significant other. Understanding what you can personally tolerate energetically and negotiating with your partner will be an important part of keeping your relationship and yourself healthy. Some sensitives find that they cannot sleep in a bed with another human…or even a pet. When I was married, this was a big struggle for me. It was even more challenging because my husband at the time preferred to always be touching me while he slept. But that was bad news for me. Absorbing his energy kept me awake, no matter how much I tried to sleep or how exhausted I was. I know I’m not the only one who has struggled with this issue as a sensitive because I’ve talked to other sensitives about this problem.

Some sensitives are fine sharing a bed but struggle with extended periods of physical contact during sleep. They may do better snuggling as they are falling asleep and rolling over after a while to sleep. Knowing what works best for you and being able to communicate is important. Of course, you will also need to take your partner’s needs into consideration as well and negotiate a solution that works well for both parties.

Create a space where you can be alone

Alone time is an important need for sensitives. And with this, you may need to create a special space in your home where you can retreat to get that quiet time that you will need to not just survive, but thrive. This can be a special room in the house. Or if you are short on space, set up your bedroom as a soothing space where you can escape for a while. Because I’m single now, I have my living room set up with plenty of soft lighting. It is a very soothing space for me. Set up something that works for you!

These are just a few of the things that you can do to help manage sharing space with a partner, children, or spouse as someone who is energy sensitive. With a little work and some compromise, you can work out things so that your needs are being met. That way you will not end up depleted.

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