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If you were to ask most people, they would agree that we should all love ourselves. And yet, not only do many people not love themselves in healthy ways, but most don’t even know what positive self-love really is. This is particularly true of those who are highly sensitive. A lack of self-love is a big problem in the energy-sensitive community. It is certainly something I have faced in my life as well. So I thought it was important to look at the subject of self-love and why that is important for the sensitives of the world.
Most highly sensitive people have a negative and self-critical inner dialogue that repeats consistently in their lives. In fact, many would-be appalled at the way they speak to and about themselves if they could hear it from outside of their mind. For sensitives this is because they have been given messages throughout their lives that their sensitivity is somehow bad, fueling issues with poor self-esteem and low self-confidence. The feeling that “something is wrong with me” or “I’m not enough” is very strong in this group and it’s something I see over and over again.
Most sensitives understand that they “should” love themselves. But they are stuck in a pattern of negative self-concept. They simply hold beliefs about themselves that hold them back. These beliefs make them feel like they aren’t enough. What is your self-concept? It is the stories you tell about yourself and the beliefs you hold about yourself. The issue is that much of your self-concept was learned at a young age. And they were messages that were given to you from other imperfect and often wounded individuals. So the majority of your self-concept is most likely untrue. And it may be holding you back from experiencing your best life!
If you struggle with a negative self-concept you will struggle to have self-love and self-confidence. If you believe stories about yourself that are limiting and negative it will be difficult to love yourself. But you can change those stories! It will require you to first become aware of them. Once you recognize those stories you can begin to flip that script and create new stories that are more positive and empowering for you.
Taking time for you
How much time do you take to sit with your own thoughts and listen to what you say to yourself regularly? Most people let their thoughts and emotions run on autopilot. And it allows those negative stories to run like a hamster on a wheel. Much of the work we need to do to change the patterns that hold us back and keep us depleted as sensitives involved sitting with yourself, being still, and becoming aware of the stories you tell yourself.
Some common stories or beliefs sensitives hold about themselves:
- Something is wrong with me
- I have to take care of everyone
- No one can love me because I’m just too different
- I don’t deserve good things in life
- I am responsible for healing others
- People will not like me if I say no
- Taking care of myself is selfish
- Wanting nice things is selfish
- I’m a failure
- I’m not enough
Although these beliefs are common, they are untrue and can quickly drain your energy. It is important to begin rewriting these beliefs. You do that by creating a statement that is more positive. For example for “Something is wrong with me” you could begin by saying “I’m different than other people, and that’s okay” instead. Flipping the script can begin reprogramming an old, outdated self-concept. But one limiting belief needs to be reprogrammed first…
Healthy nurturing is not selfish! Taking care of yourself may require you to say no to others. And while that may be uncomfortable for them at first, it is important for you…especially as a sensitive. If you want to be a healthy energy-sensitive person, self-care, self-love, and a healthy self-concept are vital. And that will require you to take time for you! In fact, you ultimately can’t give to others if you are so depleted that you have nothing less to give! So loving yourself unconditionally, and taking care of yourself can be the greatest gift you can give not only to yourself but to others.
How do you define self-love? I think this poem does a beautiful job of defining it!
The silent film star Charlie Chaplin wrote this amazing poem that helps to define self love….
What can you do in your life to practice more self-love today? What negative thoughts or emotions are no longer serving you because they are keeping you from loving yourself?